Monthly Archives: October 2008

homemade soup

This entry belongs to Rice Bowl Journal’s October 2008 Collaboration.

There is a lot of love that goes into homemade cooking. It differs from the mass produced meals ordered at restaurants. It is far more warm, evoking a feeling of being loved, when compared to fast food. There is a certain depth that even estranges a homecooked meal from a haphazardly thrown together plate. A good dish takes preparation, but it also takes a lot of heart. I believe there is a heartfelt difference between opening a can of soup, plopping it in a bowl, and heating it up.

My boyfriend has been sick lately, so I went to a local gourmet food market. It’s relatively cheap, and stocked with a vast selection that’s rather dizzying. A person could spend literally hours there, sampling foods, testing the ripeness of vegetables, and if lazy, selecting pre-made meals ranging from sushi to chicken fettucine or sandwich wraps. With a bag full of fresh cucumbers, tomatoes, carrots, and the grand surprise – smoked gouda – I trudged the mile or two back to his place, fighting against the cold weaving through the microscopic gaps in my sweatshirt’s fibers.

Greeting him briefly, I made my way to my unofficial office, my pride really, the kitchen – and set about getting ingredients in order. The harsh realities of living in a downturned economy, and not being well-established on one’s own yet has been clear in our choice of food items and grocery lists. I don’t remember the last time we ate fresh vegetables (not counting potatoes or onions) that weren’t frozen or canned. It’s simply cheaper and more long-lasting to buy stuff that won’t rot away in a week.

Ignoring the 3 lbs of chopped turkey meat that would probably kill someone if it ever accidentally fell from the freezer onto one’s unsuspecting cranium, I removed a box of chicken stock (shh! it’s not cheating!) and prepared a combination of stock and water in one large stock pot. Then, I set about adding seasoning to water in another, and poured whole wheat noodles in to boil and soften. I added seasoning – bay leaves, basil, parsley, oregano, some salt and pepper, and a touch of olive oil to the stock/water, and set it to boil as well. I washed all of the vegetables, then proceeded to chop lettuce, an onion, tomatoes, a cucumber, gouda cheese, and carrots for the first salad we’ve sadly been able to consume in weeks. I added grapes saved from the school cafeteria from lunchtime, and topped the whole thing off with a caesar parmesean yogurt dressing. I took small portions of meatloaf cooked and sent up from his mother (prepared with love too), and breaking it into bits, dropped it into the stock. I finely diced more vegetables, this time adding potatoes, and added them as well. Yes, even lettuce.

I drained the noodles and sliced each in half before transferring it over to the soup, already pleasantly boiling, and let the thing go for another twenty minutes until all the vegetables were soft and the broth was rich in flavor and nutrients. My boyfriend smelled the air expectantly, a hint of a smile on his face when he saw the salad, and offered me a cup of coffee. We set the table together and had a very nice meal. Aside from the initial purchases and decorative steps that we had taken in the apartment thus far since August, this particular meal felt like home.

And, Happy Halloween.

what is

the first thing to suffer when the activity about a person in life is overwhelming, stifling, and constant? One’s writing, of course.

I wish to write a substantial post in the near future, but for now, I can only elaborate as much to say that life has been very interesting lately. There has been some productivity in terms of graduate school applications, and hopes toward a possible graduate assistantship in my future. I can only hope that these pursuits will return fruitful.

My immediate aims are to get through the weekend, finish an essay comparing and contrasting Marx’s Communist Manifesto with selections from Aristotle’s Politica, and wake up early tomorrow morning to participate in a charity event. After, I hope to get through The Sims Castaway Stories game (my friend gave it to me for my birthday), although it has been frustratingly finicky given my Windows Vista operating system, along with the class bugs found in Electronic Arts gaming software. I also hope to complete a painting I have been occasionally developing.

However, my current goal is to wake up my boyfriend; he fell asleep in my room. The residence halls close down and lock up soon, and I need my school ID back. To wile away the time, I chomp on the plastic filter of one of his previously lit cigars. I am absolutely disgusted with myself (I don’t smoke) and the raw taste of it, but experiment with the hint of smoke and tobacco floating around in my mouth after an inhalation or two. He needs to wake up soon.

I’m dating a teacher

It occurred to me, as I was sitting in an uncomfortable, semi-squished diner booth, picking at my mashed potatoes and staring at my family, that I, Rachel of Chi Speak, am dating a teacher.

The thought weirds my sister out.

My boyfriend sat next to me, biting into his chicken sandwich, and seeming quite content with the level of greasiness coating his french fries. He was completely unaware that this thought was wrapping itself around in my mind a few times.

I am 22. He is 24. Today. And we have been dating for five years.

I took a few sips of my pina colada to calm myself, feeling the slight warmth from the hidden alcohol make the numbing chill of the frozen beverage more bearable. He is self-sufficient.

I tried this strange thought out loud, letting it linger on my tongue to catch his attention.

“You are self-sufficient,” I stated, but it sounded more like a question.

My mother busied herself with some coleslaw, and my father held an onion ring aloft with his ring hand, centimeters from his mouth, as he looked at our interaction.

“Uh, yeah,” my boyfriend stated, “and I have been for over a year.”

We were eating dinner together because I was inducted into one of the oldest, most respected honor societies at my school. He was inducted as a senior too. And, like me, he hated every moment of the tedious, pointless ceremony.

My sister chimed in, “Weird! What are you going to do after you graduate this semester?”

I didn’t respond. I pulled a piece of pumpernickel bread from my sandwich, and tore it into little deliberate bits.

She asked again.

I looked at her and at my boyfriend, and simply replied, “We’re really there, aren’t we? I’m old.”

But, as I sit in my dorm room typing this out, I know that this is far from the case. I still have a lot to accomplish and do. Although he may be in the process of establishing himself as an adult, I am still supported and held in check by a system that is neatly organized for me.

One of my goals is to write a letter to a graduate program director today. I’ll have to do so in between tutoring some students. All I want to do is paint.

when to let go

I have been working on a collaborative project of sorts for the past two years, a publication, some might call it. There has been a lot of emotional connectivity established to this, and a lot of personal sacrifice. To be quite serious, this outlet has provided a lot of salvation as well, for myself, and for others.

But as of late, despite the interruptions provided by any barriers outside of our control (such as those found within the limitations of printing opportunities), there has been a void of action. Inaction has followed. A decline in will. Ambition. The follow through movement that enacts the spiral of a thrown football. It has fallen far short of its expectations.

And there is a question slowly rising, out of the ashes, whether this is something worth letting stand on its own. It is a fawn, a fawn in the grass, that the doe has hid for far too long. Its muscles are sore. Its mother had suffered through its pregnancy during a drought, and with the coming of the rain, left to hopefully feed in a lush meadow. It would have to avoid being slain by eager hunters, of both human or predatory varieties, and has yet to return. In any case, it has been too long, and the fawn, once feeble, must prove itself, must come to terms with the independent nature of its existence, and must work for its survival. It has to stand up on its own, and walk about, run, frolick, fall, and regain its balance. It has to learn how to eat the foliage, and gain its nourishment from more than its mother’s reassuring milk. Its digestive system has developed enough where it can handle it, but mentally, its instincts cause the fawn to nestle closer to the soil, and amongst the protective stalks.

So yes, the fawn must soon stand on its legs, if it hopes to live. And the mother, if she is to return, must cope with its loss because even if the fawn succumbs to the elements, or thrives, its life must continue.

Right?

The problem at hand is going to be coaxing the fawn out of its hiding place.

you won’t talk to me

so I won’t talk to you.

It’s childish.

Isn’t it?

But isn’t this the argument

that repeats itself

through my thoughts,

through your behavior?

Call it a social experiment,

or immature,

(or perhaps a bit of

both, filled with

hope and mourning

for the loss that never was)

but,

I am still not

talking to you

first.

power

I’ve been thinking a lot (always a dangerous mindset) about the power of words. It has been awhile since any post on this site has focused on language, although it is the primary medium featured on here. Words are a prelude to appearance, to physical imagery, and the influence of such cannot be denied. Yet, image also holds significance, and perhaps, videography has paved a way that is the most influential of all, that is a combination of the two, a recording of real time, the media. The Media is a broad, vague phrase that is used to denote any network that holds the attention of a percentage in the mainstream population. All of this, anything I happen to say, attaches meaning to the obscure and abstract – What would formal reality be without its objective purpose? Nothing. It would hold no weight, no value, and certainly no credibility. A person could not even describe a chair without language, perhaps in gestures, but no context could be offered, no analysis of its size, shape, material, or color. The same person could perhaps show an outsider, an individual living in a land where nobody sits, but stretches out on the ground, or stands, by seating themselves into one, but the question remains – does the chair need a term then, or is the general understanding of its use enough?

absentee ballot

I filled out an absentee ballot application in mid-September, and finally received the actual ballot yesterday. It was pretty trippy.

The great thing about having the ballot in my possession was that I had the leisure of perusing over the issues one last time, the main candidates, and out of curiousity, looked up the other candidates that are never really talked about. I wish they would cover the third-party candidates in greater detail. If this is truly a democracy, and not a plutocracy, one would imagine that equal coverage would be given to all candidates – at least in the beginning, to the extent that a common voter would recognize the other party names. There were some I hadn’t even realized were real parties.

I filled everything out eagerly with a black pen – always black, never blue – and applied a gluestick to all the sticky-lick me flappy sections before sealing it shut. Then, I mailed it out.

It was all very exciting, I mean, this being my second vote in the primary election. It felt more subdued to stare at a piece of paper instead of being behind a curtain, in a big metal box with bright lights illuminating the candidates’ names, and those big shiny metal buttons to press and used to indicate a selection.

unintentional

I did not mean to miss class today. Again. Twice this week.

There is a cold being passed around, like in hot potato, and I fear that the music is going to stop on me. I feel the stuffiness in my lungs, the stiffness in my joints, and not only hear, but feel the gratiness in my cough.

Ugh. This sucks.

It was suggested to me awhile back that I probably have iron deficiency anemia, but I never looked into it. Sometimes, I feel like a walking medical condition when I read over my past blogs. So many issues in so few years – is my body elderly already? Ridiculous.

So yes, I awoke, promptly felt dizzy, and stayed down for an hour after I was supposed to go, go, go. I haven’t been taking my iron supplements either. Bad me. In the chaos of my last semester, I pretty much forgot all about them. So this cold is kicking my derriere, along with a probable lack of iron or something.

I’m going to the nurse. I already wrote an apologetic e-mail. I hope he doesn’t cough, “BS!” because I’m a graduating senior. Trust me – I do not have senioritis in the very least. I’d much rather stay in academia forever, and perhaps that’s a life goal of sorts – to never be separated from learning, or the love of learning, to learn something new every day.

ultimatums

I hate having to use them, especially with those I love, and even more for those who love me.

Sometimes, it’s necessary. Sometimes, it’s for the greater good, and all of that noble stuff. I know – I’m being very detailed and self-disclosing right now. I wish I could explain, with a full account of the emotions caught up in this mess, and the intricacies of the situation.

But I can’t. It’s too much, and so, I will talk about something else -

I spent most of the weekend trying to make a decade-old close friend feel better. He visited. His girlfriend of four years recently left him to find herself. He had an enlightening moment last night and felt calmed by those thoughts, but it didn’t prevent us from drinking all weekend.

And I am not a drinker, barely even socially, but he and I did have a fair time of it. He needed a great escape at that moment, and while I’m sure I could have found a positive intervention other than letting my dear friend get inebriated for two days, I could not interest him in much else. He’s not a sloppy drunk though, so it was overall, a relaxing atmosphere. I tend to get uptight about these things.

I grew up with friends who were anti-drugs, anti-alcohol. One of my very best friends had alcoholic parents. Needless to say, I am not one for partying. For clubbing. I don’t find any of it to be fulfilling, fun, or appealing. My skin becomes red and itchy. My face turns red, pretty fast, and my heart races like it’s running a full blown marathon. Okay, so the moral standards were instilled in me from a young age, but the physiological reaction is also quite the effective deterrent.

The overwhelming consensus is that people do stupid things in college -they’re bound to make mistakes, drink too much, experiment with drugs, experiment with sex, and probably miss a few classes due to being hungover. I didn’t let loose in college. What I learned from this social context is that people can drink and be raging idiots, or they can accept responsibility and learn mature social drinking behavior. And some people never learn. But, it was good to see alcohol used by responsible people too. It stripped away the fear, the hatred of it, and the constant worry for anyone who took a sip of this or that. I have learned to lighten up, be less critical. I still feel very comfortable in removing myself from an undesirable situation, and so, in that light I haven’t had the “normal” college lifestyle – I do not attend huge parties. I do not overload myself. I do not let it get to the point where I do not have control over my faculties, and hence, my safety, my life.

I am proud of the way my friend handled himself this past weekend.

And I am freezing. The heating system in my dorm building is still not on, so I will retreat from this computer to warm up in my bed.

Oh yeah, and I’m sick too, so I skipped my classes today.

friend in traffic

my friend visited from my home state on Friday. He endured 4 hours of traveling, and spent two nights on the futon. It’s nice that he was able to see how I am living now, that he walked around the neighborhood and stepped foot inside my local hangouts. It makes the bridge between here and there all the more solid somehow, as though I need people from the other side to reassure me that they’re still existing in the same world as me.

I can tell the weekend of gluttony is at its end though. My stomach and liver will thank me for easing up by the end of this evening. We’ve really spent a good deal of the time, and the majority of our resources comparing pizzerias and different types of vodka, in a frenzied coke vs. pepsi-like contest.

And of course, I ended the night with brownies.