affability

Sometimes, when people instigate, threaten, or simply do not like you, it means that you are doing something right, whether it’s following through on your job or upholding the law for the safety of others. Research (I’ll have to cite this source later) has shown that the old stereotype of bullies doesn’t necessarily hold true. At least in the study, the troublemakers weren’t the kids who were picked on, neglected at home, or suffered from low self-esteem. They were egotistical and too self-assured, even more enabled by their doting parents. Their self-esteem and feelings of superiority over their peers were high and unchecked. They treated others like dirt, because they truly viewed themselves as being better. They failed to take responsibility for their actions.

I know that I cannot please everyone. I cannot be admired by everyone, or even respected. When people do not meet one’s expectations of maturity or self-awareness, it’s wise to remember that the individual and oneself are similar. “I am also mortal and flawed.” Sometimes, the best reaction is having none at all.